Blogs we like: SWEETHOME & WIRECUTTER

A quick link to a great website Caroline would have loved.

SWEETHOME Is a great review website.
I know because they love both her toaster and blender.
Here's a great review of an awesome utility knife, The Milwaukee Fastback II.
Their sister site: THE WIRECUTTER is great for electronics.

Roger Angell, Spike Jonze, & Gotye

A beautiful piece by Roger Angell in this week's New Yorker about aging and mortality got me thinking about several recent experiences related to loss.  It reminded me of a video that Devon shared recently by Gotye, Somebody That I used To Know, and of my response to Spike Jonze’s new film "Her".  While Angell’s piece is a much deeper meditation on the nature of aging and true mortality, all three are ultimately about loneliness and melancholy, a subject largely avoided by most of our society today. I find myself attracted to all three

Angell, whose son, John Henry, is a dear friend, and his wife Carol was a teacher of Caroline's at Brearley, recently suffered tremendous loss, Carol, his daughter Callie and their dog Harry all died in relatively quick succession.  In the piece he describes of one of the surprises one experiences after suffering so much loss:

  "We geezers carry about a bulging directory of dead husbands or wives, children, parents, lovers, brothers and sisters, dentists and shrinks, office sidekicks, summer neighbors, classmates, and bosses, all once entirely familiar to us and seen as part of the safe landscape of the day. It’s no wonder we’re a bit bent. The surprise, for me, is that the accruing weight of these departures doesn’t bury us, and that even the pain of an almost unbearable loss gives way quite quickly to something more distant but still stubbornly gleaming."

Angell continues later that one of the biggest surprises of life is:

"Getting old is the second-biggest surprise of my life, but the first, by a mile, is our unceasing need for deep attachment and intimate love. We oldies yearn daily and hourly for conversation and a renewed domesticity, for company at the movies or while visiting a museum, for someone close by in the car when coming home at night."

Here is what Angell's piece shares with both the Gotye video and "Her".  All three pieces are about longing for contact with a loved ones.  "Her" is a problematic film for the very reason that it is compelling. It is about an ultimately un satisfying relationship with a computer. Jonze is one of a small handfull of popular directors who are willing to wade into loss in this way. Perhaps not coincidentally another video director, Michel Gondry, is among those who are well versed in the language of loneliness. The Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind is perhaps the ultimate breakup film.  Maybe it is telling that film makers that come from a music background are the most comfortable with loss and heartbreak, an area where music has always been at ease.

Yet even in the seemingly loss-comfortable music world, the Gotye video stands out as an unusually powerful example. The video depicts the lead singer Wouter De Backer

standing naked singing and being painted in stop motion, as the camera passes over G-rated parts of his body.

The video is notable not only for its elegantly simple production, but also for the response it garnered.  I read several of the comments and was struck by number of people disgusted by the idea (that's all it was) that he was naked. It was as if they were so afraid of the real versions of their bodies that even the thought of nakedness was offensive. More than likely these very same people are completely comfortable with a tanned body in a swimming pool selling perfume.

Which ultimately just made me want to yell at them and ask if they have ever actually looked at themselves in the mirror. "Are you aware that this body is all you've got? That is the body you'll die in? That one day some kind person at a funeral home will hold and wash the body you are looking at, and it's not going to look like that person in the perfume ad!"

Angell begins his piece describing all the many notable physical attributes that accompany his age. It made me wonder, if we all took a similarly long look in the mirror once in a while, perhaps we would become a little more comfortable with our own frailty and mortality. Maybe we'd also become a little better at the vulnerability that's a needed for the intimacy we crave.

A Thought on Kids

I expect there will be several posts on this topic.  I imagine all of Caroline's friends who  have kids would wait, like we did, for pearls of wisdom about how to raise children to fall from her lips. 

This post come courtesy  Jenny Madeline, a friend of Caroline's from from College:

"I learned many things from Caroline over the years.  But one of the most memorable things, which I put to use daily, is that she taught me not to compare my daughter to anyone else's children.  That it is neither fair to her, nor me for that matter.  I called Caroline constantly when I first had Elsa.  Her practical advice from breastfeeding issues to how to handle intercontinental plane trips was invaluable.  But not comparing Elsa to others really resonated.  Of course, I had read not to do this but the way Caroline phrased it made it seem so common sense."

This is great advice.  For everyone, not just parents with kids.  I bet there are times we all could use a reminder not to compare.

How To Buy A Light Switch

When we were renovating our loft in Brooklyn we were faced with the problem of how to control the lighting in a big space. We had several built in fixtures, pendants and several switched outlets, controlled from three locations, our front door, the kitchen and the hall to the bedrooms.  As we suspected there were many sleek and technologically advanced systems. 

We looked into several. Most use some kind of slick control panel with a touch screen that controls zones and requires programming things like "themes" or "scenes". This all made me nervous. As a designer working in theater it seemed logical that like most things in my business (decorative foam architectural moulding) home lighting was also becoming more theatrical. 

My head was spinning as I realized the possibilities. Some day soon someone will sell themed packages by famous directors:  the Baz Luhrmann Collection: with "East Egg Sunset" and for Moulon Rouge fans "Burning  Manuscript" in case your 'loft like' condo isn't bohemian enough. Maybe the Brian DePalma "Cocaine Haze" would soon follow. And of course there would be the favorite Kubrick collection with "Napalm Sunrise" and "Red Rum Retreat". 

Stop! The possibilities were mindless. This was not who we were.  But we still debated. As often happens these days, we were drawn to the clever and convenient despite knowing in our hearts it was neither. So as usual I called Caroline. Of course she had the answer. Devon's uncle Dennis, a serial renovator of amazing houses, had recently mentioned in passing that "you should never lave a light switch that a guests need instructions to use". Dennis knew the answer, and Caroline had remembered. So we now have a lovely row of simple light switches. And they work great. Thanks Caroline and Dennis. 

The Smoothie

So you got your Vitamix and you're ready to go… Here it is! 

Or at least version 1.0. 

I expect there are as many variations as there are people making smoothies. But here is, our take on Caroline's green smoothie. 

This recipe is enough for 2 large glasses plus one sippy cup for Antonia. 

2-3 stalks of kale, stem removed, washed

Small handful of spinach or Chinese broccoli, or bok choy

1-2 tablespoon sized chunks of raw ginger. 

2-3 celery stalks (chopped into 3" chunks.)

4-6 sprigs of mint leaves (20 leaves) 

1 banana 

1/2-1 quartered apple (depending on how sweet you want it)

1/4 cup plain nonfat yoghurt

1/4 cup frozen blueberries

1 1/2 cups ice cubes. 

1 cup water. 

1-2 teaspoons lemon juice. 

Optional extras:

Walnuts 

Raw Oatmeal

1/2 Avocado (Caroline like the smooth texture) 

Fill the blender with all the ingredients. Starting with the lightest (greens) first, placing the ice on top. 

Start the blender on low, and start working the mixture down increasing speed slowly as the ingredients combine. Stopping and starting the motor several times. This will likely require some use of the stick to mash the contents down, or we just lift the pitcher and shake it so things settle down 3-5 times blending in between each shake. Once the mixture is almost completely combined turn the motor to full and blend for 15-30 seconds. 

Definitely experiment with other vegetables and fruits. Strawberries and peaches are great. 

We keep washed mint, spinach and kale in the fridge so prep is relatively quick. Mint keeps well in a cup of water covered with a plastic bag (together with cilantro & parsley) in the fridge. 

Please comment or email me with your recipes and experiments. Maybe a version 2.0 will evolve. 

Mark Bittman Resolutions

On Wednesday Mark Bittman wrote in the New York Times about good food habits for the new year.  Caroline was cooking for a half vegetarian family, and so was likely living Mark's VB6 diet long before he invented it.  I think she would have like the simple advice he offers here.  Things like keeping cooked drains on hand:

"Because it’s nearly effortless, and having cooked grains and beans on hand at all times makes day-to-day cooking a breeze. They will keep in the fridge up to a week."

His piece reminds me of several friends on Facebook asking for good recipes for a big Sunday cook so they have leftovers for the rest of the week.  Keeping grains and some simply cooked vegetables on hand means whipping up a meal is easy.  Add an amazing piece of meat from your local butcher and suddenly it's fancy!  Speaking of butchers.  I think a fun post about (hipster) butchers is called for soon.  But in case you are wondering we love McCalls in LA and Meat Hook in Brooklyn.

I also like Bittman's leftover vegetable spread (Although I'm not so sure about breakfast…)

"Purée any leftover vegetables (as long as they are tender) in the food processor with olive oil, fresh parsley leaves, lemon juice, salt and pepper until the mixture reaches the consistency you want. Serve with bread, crackers or crudités. It’s nice on toast as breakfast."

The first time somebody made me kale pesto, I think my mind exploded with the possibilities…  Why not mash up all the good things in a food processor and slather them on the rest of your food?  I imagine somewhere between Pesto, Tapenade, Green Goddess and Chimichurri is a sauce/spread for everyone.  Just keep some lemon juice, olives, nuts (and anchovies!) on hand and you can start making up your own yummy green slime.

Gramercy Tavern Guinness Gingerbread Cake

Well this is a little late for the holidays but is there ever really a bad time to bake a cake?

Caroline made this one almost every year for a while.

Our mother reminded me recently about the poached pears Caroline found went well with it.  So I've included a recipe that seems close to what I remember her cooking.

first you need the bundt pan. here it is from William Sonoma  but I bet it can be found cheaper elsewhere. 

Then get some guinness (grab a few extra for yourself) and follow the directions below courtesy epicurious. Here are the pears, again from epicurious.

Enjoy!

gramercy tavern gingerbread

ingredients

• 1 cup oatmeal stout or guinness stout
• 1 cup dark molasses (not blackstrap)
• 1/2 teaspoon baking soda
• 2 cups all-purpose flour
• 1 1/2 teaspoons baking powder
• 2 tablespoons ground ginger
• 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
• 1/4 teaspoon ground cloves
• 1/4 teaspoon freshly grated nutmeg
• pinch of ground cardamom
• 3 large eggs
• 1 cup packed dark brown sugar
• 1 cup granulated sugar
• 3/4 cup vegetable oil
• confectioners sugar for dusting

special equipment:

• a 10-inch (10- to 12-cup) bundt pan

accompaniment:

• unsweetened whipped cream

preparation

preheat oven to 350°f. generously butter bundt pan and dust with flour, knocking out excess.

bring stout and molasses to a boil in a large saucepan and remove from heat. whisk in baking soda, then cool to room temperature.

sift together flour, baking powder, and spices in a large bowl. whisk together eggs and sugars. whisk in oil, then molasses mixture. add to flour mixture and whisk until just combined.

pour batter into bundt pan and rap pan sharply on counter to eliminate air bubbles. bake in middle of oven until a tester comes out with just a few moist crumbs adhering, about 50 minutes. cool cake in pan on a rack 5 minutes. turn out onto rack and cool completely.

serve cake, dusted with confectioners sugar, with whipped cream.

cooks' notes:

•this recipe was tested with grandma's brand green-label molasses.

•like the chocolate decadence cake, the gingerbread is better if made a day ahead. it will keep 3 days, covered, at room temperature.

pears poached in red wine, cardamom and orange

ingredients

• 1 750-ml bottle dry red wine
• 2 1/4 cups sugar
• 2 cups water
• 1/2 cup orange juice
• 2 teaspoons grated orange peel
• 1 teaspoon ground cardamom
• 1 cinnamon stick
• 4 firm but ripe pears, peeled, stems left intact

• 1 pint vanilla ice cream
• 1 plain or almond biscotti, crumbled
• orange peel strips (optional)

preparation

combine first 7 ingredients in heavy large saucepan. stir over medium heat until sugar dissolves and mixture comes to simmer. add pears and return mixture to simmer. reduce heat and simmer slowly until pears are tender when pierced with knife, about 25 minutes. transfer pears to plate. boil liquid in saucepan until reduced to 3 cups, about 20 minutes. (can be made 1 day ahead. cover and chill pears in poaching liquid. before serving, rewarm over medium-low heat until pears are heated through.)

arrange 1 warm pear and 1 scoop of ice cream on each of 4 plates. drizzle some poaching liquid over. sprinkle with biscotti crumbs. garnish with orange peel strips, if desired, and serve.